Giveaway #94 Mum trying to get her autistic child back into school

By April 7, 2024No Comments

Afternoon friends. Our 94th donation was nominated by our member, Kim:

“Sarah (name changed), is a single parent whose relationship with her partner ended last summer. She has one child J who has significant learning needs and Autism. J is currently not in school so spends all day every day at home with his mum. They do not have any support from relatives and since becoming a single parent mum Sarah has struggled to find time to make friends so over time has become very isolated.

J had been in a special school pre Covid and during lockdown J and his mum did lessons at home together which she felt they were both enjoying. Sarah feels she then made the ‘worst mistake of her life’ believing they could continue this and withdrawing J from school. When her relationship ended she found herself at home struggling with her own emotions and trying to meet her J’s needs which became increasingly difficult.

J saw other children through the window going to school and wanted to go back, Sarah agreed but hadn’t realised how very difficult a journey this would be. Pre Covid J had a EHCP but due to the time out of school this now needed updating; not being in school complicated the assessments needed which has slowed everything down and they are still in the process of trying to jump through all the hoops to make this possible, it has been over a year so far.

On her own Sarah began to struggle financially having to sell her car to make ends meet, at the same time J’s frustration and lack of understanding means they are feeling punished which has impacted significantly on behaviour, resulting in Sarah struggling to keep J calm and safe at home, she worries she is not providing an education which is increasing the gap between what J is achieving, and what J is capable of. Sarah is dyslexic and on the waiting list for her own diagnosis for Autism which has made going through this process on her own even harder.

I am asking for an award from Friends of Derby 500 to buy an iPad for J, a safe case and some additional educational resources to help them both through this transition back to education. Sarah budgets well and is working with myself and citizens advice but like all people has been hit hard by increased financial pressures during the cost of living crisis just to pay the bills and get the essentials. She will be looking to pick up the pieces of her life and in the future return to work. I have been really touched by her situation and her bravery in getting out of a difficult relationship. I feel this award would not only improve things for both of them but help her to see there are good people in the city.”

On speaking to Sarah she explained that since J has broken their tablet behaviour has been more challenging and J keeps trying to escape out of the house to go to school. She was delighted on news of our donation and sends heartfelt thanks and appreciation to you all.

Well done everyone!